How did you become a NEET? (26)

1 Name: Anonymage : 2015-10-19 07:24 [Del]

I think that the seed that will make me a NEET was planted in my childhood. My parents, especially my father, were very strict and from my child perspective, the most terrifying people. I realize that they weren't particularly fearsome people, now that I have grown up, but it was the impression that they gave me.

For this reason, I presume, I've grown up without desiring, wanting anything, for fear of asking my parents something. I was even scared to ask them money to buy books that was required by school teacher. So, to cope with frustration, I've started to imagine myself possessing and doing all things that I desired. And it worked, for me it was almost like the real thing to imagine myself eating an ice cream, or exploring old Roman ruins.

And because of all this I lacked the most strongest motivation for money, and so work. As soon as I want something, my brain just tell me that I don't really want it, and if the desire is too strong I imagine that I already having it. Thus I don't have any valid reason to sell my time, and energy to earn money for things that I don't even want.

2 Name: Anonymage : 2015-10-19 07:41 [Del]

I hate to say something as simple-minded as this but... genetics.

3 Name: Anonymage : 2015-10-19 09:29 [Del]

I didn't like school, and didn't want to work. Toward the end of my final year there I realized all my time was being drained by it and sleeping. I'd sleep as soon as I got home until about an hour before I had to start getting ready again. My mother and father were dead and self-admittedly neglectful, so nobody was there to shove me back in.

4 Name: Anonymage : 2015-10-19 20:46 [Del]

I lost my job. That was 3 years ago.

5 Name: Anonymage : 2015-10-19 20:54 [Del]

Always been shy, got hooked on video games/internet, NEETdom naturally followed.

6 Name: Anonymage : 2015-10-19 21:02 [Del]

I participated in the family business since a very young age. Nearly 8 was when I first started working. I worked for this fucking business for YEARS. I worked every weekend and went to school every weekday for nearly 10 goddamn fucking years. From 8 to 17. We were poor. I never wanted anything. I never asked for birthday presents. I never wanted anyone to give me a goddamn thing. I wanted to struggle and fail on my own for some sadistic reason. Maybe my self-hatred manifested itself a lot younger than I thought.
After this I became the most jaded, apathetic, and borderline psychopathic 18 year old you would ever have the displeasure to meet.

I dropped out of highschool, quit society, and fell into the dark, slithering abyss of my mind for years. I came out the other side as something else.

7 Name: Anonymage : 2015-10-19 21:11 [Del]

Teen trauma.
Also, i prepared my being for a fictional world.
Reality is not as kind and forgiving as i had imagined.
So i dropped out.

8 Name: Anonymage : 2015-10-19 21:56 [Del]

I graduated high school

9 Name: Anonymage : 2015-10-19 22:29 [Del]

I dropped out of high school during my freshman year (I was 15 at the time for those who aren't from America). After a short stint (and ultimately, a failure) with community college I am now a NEET again. I regret it very, very much.

To others who were in a similar situation: please do not take going to college lightly, especially if you don't get anything for free (because your parents are middle class). It's not worth it! Make sure you are truly ready to leave NEETdom for good.

10 Name: Anonymage : 2015-10-19 22:38 [Del]

Im taking online college courses, but I am pretty much living the NEET life right now. I am in this situation because my dysthmia (I guess they call it persistent depression disorder now) became too much and I broke down into a major depression for the past year or so.

11 Name: Anonymage : 2015-10-19 23:19 [Del]

Childhood depression, a taste of the NEET life thanks to a long term sleeping sickness, and overly permissive parents who would allow me to drop out and stay at home. That's the simple story.

12 Name: Anonymage : 2015-10-20 01:33 [Del]

was born a NEET. naturally inclined towards reclusiveness and not giving a shit. no mental illnesses. no depression. no longing for social status or companionship. i'm happy playing vidgames, using the internet and watching anime 12hoursa day. I've been a NEET for nearly a decade.

13 Name: Anonymage : 2015-10-20 03:42 [Del]

Had a mental breakdown in school, was supposed to stay home for a week to relax and take a break, turned into 6 years.

14 Name: Anonymage : 2015-10-21 19:10 [Del]

As i went through school my parents expectations went to rock bottom. I ended up just going to community college, then never got a job after that. They bother me about it every so often, and about 2 weeks ago it marked 2 years. The first year i was "Taking a break" and the second year i was "preparing and searching"

My parents realize i am a failure, and im happy they are accepting it.

15 Name: Anonymage : 2015-10-22 19:55 [Del]

>>1
I can kinda relate, OP.

I have parents similar to yours. That's how I ended up living in my head. Since I couldn't get anything out of the real world.

16 Name: Anonymage : 2015-10-22 20:43 [Del]

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17 Name: Anonymage : 2015-10-23 04:32 [Del]

>>16 W...what is this monster?

18 Name: Anonymage : 2015-10-24 15:34 [Del]

>>17
A portal ya dangus!

19 Name: Anonymage : 2015-10-28 06:07 [Del]

I don't think one becomes a NEET.
Just that being a NEET is the result of not becoming anything else.
I actually did well in school, and excelled in university, at least on paper, in a STEM field no less.
Got pretty depressive when I realised that if I wanted any way to use my education I was supposed to be partying it up and making friends, not studying. Failed a bunch of interviews for PhD positions, and had no confidence at them anyway because I was bad at research. My last year was just being miserable at being awful at the research project I was doing.
And so 3 years after graduation I'm sitting around as a NEET.
Trying to stay somewhat productive though. Learn new skills. Always liked computers so I decided to give a shot at learning how to program- but it's completely as a hobby now since there's no money in it for people like me.

20 Name: Anonymage : 2015-10-28 07:26 [Del]

I didn't become one. I am one because I have a social anxiety disorder. It's true i did work at one time, but since i was laid off, i haven't worked since. i was laid off at 23. i am 28 now. i haven't worked in 5 years.

21 Name: Anonymage : 2015-10-30 10:15 [Del]

>>19 Relaizing the true purpose of higher 'education' was a bitter pill for me to swallow as well. I graduated over 1 year ago now, and am trying to start online businesses in hopes of avoiding normies and a normie life as much as possible.

It disgusts me just how little focus on education there actually is in higher education.

22 Name: Anonymage : 2015-12-07 03:27 [Del]

I became a NEET because I graduated University without any internship, a mediocre gpa, and no networking. I also had no job experience before. I tried to become a programmer, went to a bootcamp, and failed. I worked for India style wages doing projects for some guy for the first 7 months of this year, too and quit after I got sick of it.

23 Name: Anonymage : 2015-12-08 15:57 [Del]

>>19 Yup don't bother getting any good jobs as a wizard. It's all about connections, contacts, references and hookups. Our best hope is being a codemonkey.

24 Name: Anonymage : 2016-03-08 08:59 [Del]

Walmart fired me and/or let me go from my unloading job for a "third strike". Didn't show up because they rearranged the schedule so instead of me being on the bottom i was second from the bottom. They called me in to work only to fire me. I think that was 2009 maybe. Went on unemployment and then disability. Anxiety, social phobia/anxiety, depression, bipolar (med induced probably). Failed/left software engineering (1 year+1 month) but finished webmaster certificate at local college over five years (2003- 2008) during night school mainly to have something to say to my doctor. Not seeing him anymore. Just family doctor. I probably could have just skipped my twenties because I really don't remember what happened.

25 Name: Anonymage : 2016-03-20 09:20 [Del]

Technically I've never been a "real" NEET.
However, during from the 2nd to the 5th year in uni, especially during a "peak" of several months, I did absolutely nothing other than browsing the internet from my dorm room and going to fetch food once or twice a day.
I wouldn't speak to anyone for many days at a time, and I wouldn't have spoken to literally anyone for months haven't been for my mother's phone calls and the cashiers. I suffered from extreme social anxiety and probably depression.

The real reason I ended up in this miserable situation was my mother's unrealistic expectations and her demands for perfect grades among other things. She knew I was failing, but she wouldn't let me face the truth and go on with my life. I was a toy to her, a tool to lift her ego (ie "my son is studying engineering! he's doing great"). She didn't care about my physical or mental health. It took me years to realize and accept it.
Now I've vastly improved, but I'm still not fine.

26 Name: Anonymage : 2019-10-14 08:39 [Del]

Does anyone get the feeling that Americans will be wearing Mao suits and giving Nazi salutes soon?

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